Our Real Success Seminar this Sunday – 23rd July, 2017 was on Habit 6: “Synergy – Family”. Pastor Francis said today will be the last Sunday he will be talking about the topic and that the topic is too vast, to difficult to finish in four weeks while Mrs. Adefisayo will be here next Sunday as she has a radical way of bringing the practical truth about this topic while the choir will be ministering the Hillsong Songs looking at “The Eagles Wings”.
Pastor Francis said today he will be starting with “The 3rd Alternative from a Family point of View” with a four minutes video afterwards with four examples I want to share. He said we create a third alternative family by deliberately adopting a mindset of synergy: not my way, not your way but our way a higher and better way. We train ourselves to adopt this mindset by persistently going for the third alternative in all our important interactions. I am married to a woman who is amazingly 180 degree different from me, she is cool, calm, and collected while I am the exact opposite of that but I have come to understand there are different ways of roasting a corn. My way is not only the right way.
He also said, how we raise our children, the way we manage money, balance career, make religious choices, promote intimacy -these are important issues and need to be handled with synergy. Too often these issues are handled not only without synergy, but also without respect or empathy, as in these changes:
It’s remarkably simple and profound at the same time. It’s something you almost don’t think about – family. Your children is a demonstration of synergy, when I look at my two sons I wonder where they get there gifts from or the strength. But sometimes I see or recognise them in my wife’s or myself. And simile, we almost similedon’t recognise them. This principle of Synergy can work any where be it Nation, Businesses, Family, etc.
Family Crisis and The 3rd Alternative – I took the three examples from the book – The 3rd Alternative and felt it will help.
Isa 40:31 (CEV) –
But those who trust the Lord will find new strength. They will be strong like eagles soaring upward on wings; they will walk and run without getting tired.
Even when you are tired there is another source of strength. One of the concept that is brought about here is about having a paradigm of creation, whatever problem I found myself I can adopt another way if the other two ways are not working. There can be a lay-off anywhere as it is even in the Nation and this church, many men and women are not working which is bringing a lot of problems and a study showed that domestic violence is rampant when there is a lay-off.
First Example – it’s about a man who had no job but his wife developed a chronic illness and this man worked in a furniture company and said on the average people walk in and don’t buy anything. So he walked up to the manager and said he can helped to get back what he is loosing. The manager agreed and the man went home told his wife who had a business management background and asked that they synergy – the 3rd alternative to create a job out of the present situation. The family is a portfolio of strengths.For thousand of years, families have pulled together to succeed.
Second example – the couple has no job and they lived in an area where new housing devlopments are much, instead of lining up with the unemployed or sinking in despair, they synergize to create a job. The man who is a saleman naturally sold, his wife understands finances and the kids who were nimble and strong came together to start a fenses business.
We can synergize in the situation where we are in now, e.g the case of a couple who happened that one is working and the other is not or one income is steady while the other one’s is not. They can think of the other alternative so as to help the family out of the situation they are in. They will all be enjoying that today and it will become the big success.
Third example – You still need the third alternative thinking capacity to build your family even if you don’t want to work with your family members. I remember a few months ago, a member of the church was adviced to involve his wife in his business and it didn’t make sense until when prayer was made with them – but now, I can see a completely different strategy of coming together – Synergy (The 3rd Alternative), your wife has things that she can bring into your family or business that you are paying other people for.
The problems you faced are right there in your house. A 3rd Alternative is to design your own job on something you love to do and find a need in the world and then go market it. A resilient family is a family that is blessed with a 3rd Alternative Mindset. Right now, I feel in our home and businesses, it is the biggest resource we have and we are not even using.
You don’t need to have a crisis to be in a Crisis. Ephesians 5: 31 – For this reason a man will leave his father and his mother to be united to his wife and the two shall become one flesh. Anytime I read this, I found out that it is always interesting that there’s a word we always miss out – “Become”. Become is a process and it may take longer time – years etc. Let’s take off the idea of one flesh from the point of view of a human being, let’s look at it from this angle a man will leave his father and his mother and God is going to make him a new creature, a new way of thinking, a new way of acting, a new way of solving problems.
Everyone counts, everyone contributes, no one is left out. This meddling of the two cultures of husband and wife in an unprecedented third culture clearly adds up to more than the sum of the parts.
Syn – er – gy (sin-er-jee) is “the cooperative working together of two or more people or organisations, when their combined effect is greater than the sum of their individual efforts”
You can watch, listen and read via these links below:-
Link to the Facebook Live stream –
https://web.facebook.com/dbridgenetwork/videos/10155546407404244/
Link to the Power Point: Synergy & The Family –
https://drive.google.com/open?id=0B8-A3fjDeKPFNTVHLXJYZmlLZzA
See you next week and God bless!!!
Oluwaranti O. Fayankinnu
